HE WILL FALL HEAD OVER HEELS FOR YOU WITH THESE...

Hello Readers,

After staying off love talk for a while, I decided to bring you this one today. I hope you like it. 

Anyway, some time ago I shared a post on 'FINALLY MAKE HER FALL FOR YOU!!'. Remember? Ok. If you did not read it, please, here. If you recall, some readers wanted something for the ladies too and I thought 'why not?' So I came up with 'ways you can make a man fall' 'yakata' for you. Trust me, it is as easy as 'ice-cream'. Hmmmm #LOL

Check them out...........

Your Physical Appearance.

Wear clothes that are pretty and wear makeup that enhances the good points of you. Real men want someone who is classy, so don't wear trashy clothes. You can show a little bit of skin when you go out for a date, but don't over do it; by all means avoid looking skanky. Most men do not like too much make up, so I advise you to be subtle with it. Remember it is supposed to enhance you not to completely remove the real you. Don't forget, men are moved by what they see first....

Be Classy, Respectful and Powerful.  

This means you should not allow any man take advantage of you. If you want him to respect you and fall for you, you need to be strong and able to command his respect yourself. Some people think you are more loved by men when you nod at everything they say, it's a big lie. Please, you do not have to be disrespectful, argumentative or controversial but you need them to know that you have opinions too and they should be heard. That's what real men want actually. 

Flirt With Him. 

A good way to do this is to compliment him and to smile at him. This works magic! Always remember to make eye contacts and long gazes with him. Say hi or wave at him whenever you cross paths. If you can, strike up conversations with him when you two are alone. Babes, there is no harm in flipping your hair and gently touching his shoulder when you pass him! Trust me, with this he will want to always see you and that is how it starts.. hehehehe. If you are shy, don't worry, guys actually like shy girls, but you have to make him work for it. You can try not to be too shy though. Laugh at his jokes and try your best to strike up conversations. Tell funny stories you know, it might help you work around things. Careful though, don't do the jokes that only your family and friends laugh at. They may not actually be funny. 

Be Hard to Get. 

Men love to chase after girls and they like girls who are not too forward. Don't jump at date offers. If he

asks you on a date, you could say, "hey, I will think it over'or 'I will give my reply later'. If he says he will call to get the reply, please, don't now be the one calling to give the date info. Because if he feels you are jumpy, you may end up losing him. If you like him and he has not asked you out yet, don't say "I love you so much, will you please go out with me?!". No!! Instead, you could say, "I want to go to this event and none of my friends can go, so would you like to come with me?" Keep him guessing! Don't just give in because you like him. Truth is, lots others will come your way if you do not get to be together.

Be Confident.

Let him be the man; there is no harm in that. If he says something rude to you, stand up for yourself. Men love confident women. Learn to not say bad things about yourself. Once again, confidence! If he can't stand your confidence, then you should not even be interested in him falling for you.

Be Open Always. 

Don't cheat on him! You must date only him and he should date only you also. Being open here does not mean you should play all your cards on the table.If he sees it all, you will fail. So always leave him guessing and wanting more. He will fall head over heels without knowing it. 

Take Your Time.

Take your time, don't get ahead of yourself and think about marriage. Don't conclude he is going to marry you just because you are dating. Make him know you are not desperately looking for marriage too. This will help you control him if he tries to take advantage of your body. If a man knows you are not placing marriage demand on him, he will simply think there are other men trying to have you and he will buckle up and there he is for only you.

Do Not Be forceful. 

A lot of ladies are guilty of this. Men have huge ego and as a result they don't want to be forced to do anything. Be subtle when you want him to do anything. He wants to see that you can submit to him and not you ordering him around. If you can achieve this, then you have him.

Buy Him Gifts.

I am adding this because  most ladies feel that the man should be the only one doing the gift giving. Please, that is the wrong mentality. If a man has the slightest feeling that you are not good at sharing he may be put off. Now this is not saying that you should try to buy him over, as a matter of fact I don't think real men give in to that but you should exhibit some sharing habit because love is sharing. Right?

Let me stop here for now.

As we know, love is not science or mathematics with formulas to work with but there are points that could guide us in our love walk and I think these could. 

Or what do you think about them?  

OFFICE WORKERS' HEALTH/FITNESS TIPS

Often times I hear office workers say they are putting on so much weight especially on the stomach. Truth is, at some point, you just cannot avoid adding some weight or tummy especially in a country like ours but surely not when you are still in your twenties, thirties, or even forties. No! You should not allow that!

I perfectly understand that you sit behind a desk and/or probably at a position for like 9 hours? Or even more for some people. Yes! this routine could inevitably make you grow fatter and especially rounder in the middle region. But you can deal with it.

Check out how...

Try Exercising In The Mornings. This will  make you feel refreshed and pump you full of energy ready for the day. It does not have to be hectic; it could be a short run or walk, some sit ups, push ups, skips, etc. Just something to help you sweat. Perhaps, you are not a morning exercise person, try organizing a lunch time workout session, or an evening workout session with a Personal Trainer or by yourself.

While at work, get up from your desk every 1 hour  or so, walk around, grab some water, go to the loo or just stand up and have a stretch! Do not sit for the whole of 9 hours because you want to make money because if you continue like that you might end up spending the money in the hospitals later or worse still, you might not even be there to spend that money. I am sorry, but that is the bitter truth!

Get outside at lunch time. Try eating your lunch outside, just go for a walk and get a bit of fresh air, relax your nerves.

Take your own lunch if you can. It saves you some money and helps you eat healthy, at least you know it is fresh and what has been put in it. Then just try and get away from your desk to eat it, even if it’s for 20-30mins, you will feel recharged and be more productive throughout the afternoon. 

From time to time go chat with people, rather than emailing them unless you don’t really want to talk to them! This could help you exercise your body a bit.

Sometimes you could take the stairs if you work in a tall building. Leave the lift alone once in a while; lift yourself with your legs..LOL. Trust me, it is a great cardio workout,  and great for the legs too. Though it might make you a little sweaty but you want to do that from time to time. 

If you happen to live close to work, walk or run, rather than drive. It does magic to your body.

Please eat your breakfast, it will set you up for the day. It is not advisable to start work on an empty stomach.

For those who live in Lagos, the traffic situation may make you get home late. My advise is do not eat anything heavy when it is late. It is a very easy way to develop a big stomach. If you can do veggies and fruits on nights like that, best!

If you can, eat a lot of vegetables and fruits most of the time. Apart from the fact that it helps digestion, it is very light and for someone who sits at a position for a long time, you would be doing yourself a world of good.

Please, let us try these tips and even more that are probably not written here so that we can stay alive to enjoy all the wealth we are acquiring.

LIVING SINGLE-WHY SOME LADIES DO NOT WANT TO BE MARRIED

Ever wondered why some female folks will not hear about the word 'Marriage, especially in a setting like ours in this era?

I have, on several occasions infact. But I have discovered that the more I try to understand, the more confused I get about some ladies' decision not to ever get married. You would not blame me, would you? For all we know, it is only a few decades back when women were all about settling down and having kids. But come to to think of it, what has changed?

Anyway, in a bid to help myself and some other people like me understand reasons for the craze about staying single, I decided to get people's opinions on their 'Spinsterhood Forever' idea.

Here are some of their reasons...

The Independent Life

They say it is more fulfilling to live their lives on their own and as they want. This way no one will order them around. They want to be as free as birds.. Hmmm

I Want My Own Career

Some say they are staying single because they find fulfillment through work, and are focusing on their ambitious career goals..To them, if men can focus on careers before romance, why can't women do the same thing and may be get really rewarded for their hard work?

Waiting for Mr. Right

Another lady wants to stay single until she meets someone she's truly in love with beacuse she doesn’t want to settle for the wrong guy just because she feels anxious about not being married. Ok, this is good, right?
Afterall, she has not totally ruled marriage out. I wish you luck in your wait.

I Want To Stay Single Because I Can!

This lady said she can afford to stay single and she is doing just that. 'There is nothing any man wants to give me that I cannot give myself!'

I Am Scared of Getting Hurt and Failing.

This one said it  is scary enough that she has to take the big leap; what if she fails or what if the marriage fails?She said she rather stays single than getting married and not making it.

 I Can Enjoy Sex With Anyone I Choose

According to this person, you're not stuck with the same sex partner for the rest of your life. I never have to wrestle with sexual boredom or lack of variety which is what most married ladies crave after a few years of marriage.

Men Are Cheats

This person thinks men even start cheating from their wedding nights and that she is not ready to be the housewife who will never be appreciated because her husband is busy with girlfriends outside.

Are you shocked? There are ladies who think like this. 

But do you agree with their points?

THE AJAH GRIDLOCK

 This week has been a very frustrating one for Lagosians, especially those around the Lekki-Ajah environs.

The first two days of the week, it was a  terrible traffic situation (or what we can call, 'cars on slow motion') as a result of the fuel scarcity which led to unending queues at the few fuel stations that were selling.

Today, it was a total gridlock/roadblock. For me, it was a case of 'double wahala for deadi bodi... According to an eye witness, protesters had blocked the road because an elderly woman had been hit and killed by a vehicle.

I feel so sorry for her family; I pray her soul rests in peace.

But is it right for thousands of other innocent road users to suffer because of this? Is it even right for 'area boys' to just block the government road because a man killed someone?

See more photos of the situation after the cut..

In these photos, people are walking to their places of work. 

I really do not know, what do you think about this situation?

BETTER WAYS TO WEAR KILLING HEELS

The thought of publishing an article about heels brought back a memory of how I struggled with a pair of shoes I wore to church sometime in the past. Hahahahaha.....

My shoe customer had just returned from the UK and had called on me and my shoe-loving friend. Excitedly, we had quickly run to her place so that we could get the best shoes before a lot of people came. We did get the best. As we tried them on, I was already picturing myself in a pair of awesome sandals the next day which was going to be a Sunday.. Hmmm.

Sunday came and the heels were fair enough on my way to church as I was feeling fly and walking with so much grace, but not on my way back.. LOL

I could barely go halfway home before my legs got wobbly from a weakness I could not explain. My graceful walk of earlier suddenly  became disgraceful. The next thing I felt was a profuse sweat. You know that awkward moment when there is no heat but you are just sweating. I became frustrated.

My frustration turned into shame when some laborers and area boys around started laughing and saying, 'Sister, commot the shoe na, you just dey shake like jellyfish, you go fall o, Na by force? Sisi eko. One even said, 'Come, make I help you, ehya, see as her leg just dey bend'.

I got the urge to shut them up but then I thought, 'What if I fell in the process, who would help me stand?

Just then, I wished I hadn't bought those shoes.. #feel free to laugh at me#. Thank goodness, I succeeded in wobbling home but never wore those sandals again. ROTFL

You do not want to be in this situation really. And hey, if it had happened to you before, no big deal. Just learn how to do better next time with these tips......

Wear the Right Size.
Sometimes, because we love some shoes we want to buy them even if they are not perfect size. It could be a big mistake. If it is not your size, please, give it up. Go for perfect size if you want to enjoy your heels. Our shoe sizes change sometimes mostly after child birth. When they do, you should change to your new size.

Know Your Foot Type. 
Your foot type maybe the reason you feel pain or uncomfortable when you wear your heels. So try to know how much your foot is flattening or how high of an arch you have. This could help you make better choices in heels and other shoes.

Go for Platforms or Thicker Heels
Thin soles, most of the time, give you pain on the bottom of your foot and even cause your foot to wobble around which is not worth bargaining for. I know sometimes  dresses call for stilettos but hey, you could just make it occasional or avoid long distance walks in order not to attract unnecessary comments from area boys especially when you are not driving.

Give Your Feet a Break.
From time to time, kick off your shoes and allow your feet some rest and air. Stretch the front of you feet and the ankle. work on your feet in a way that you will get the Achilles’ tendon and the calf muscles more relaxed.

Do Shoes with More Coverage.
These are more comfortable. In fact, you could wear this kind of shoes for the whole day without any form of discomfort. Just know what works for you. 

Shoe Pads Work Magic Too.
These are products that market themselves for high heels. They are called metatarsal or ball of the foot pads. They are oval-shaped pads that go under the ball of the foot, usually made from a silicone gel. They help fight soreness under the ball of the foot especially if it’s made of silicone. It will hold your foot more steady in the shoe so your feet aren’t sliding forward as much. This could protect your toes from friction and blisters.

Leave flats or slippers in your cars or bags for times when your feet cannot take it anymore. It works for me. You can try it.

Please, you may not want to try these though...

MASTURBATION, ITS DANGERS

Masturbation, which has been the latest subject matter on Hazon's Diaries has been quite controversial. You can tell from the comments from readers. LOL. Please, read the previous posts here and here 

While some think it is bad and evil, others feel indifferent about it. An anonymous commenter particularly asked this question.... 

HD, please, is masturbation really wrong? I have someone close to me who masturbates. I have never thought it was wrong but people see it as wrong. So I want your opinion since you wrote about it. thanks

People say it is not bad and it is not good. But do you feel good within yourself doing it? If you do not, then try to stop it. I know it is not going to be that easy but you have to try because the truth is, that statement, 'it is not bad and it is not good' is a lie. Something cannot be bad and good at the same time. This is my opinon!

However, to answer your question further, I have decided to share with you some of the dangers of masturbation. Some of them, with examples. 

Please, check them out..

It could cause you a big embarrassment or public disgrace. If you want to know what I am talking about, go ask the guy who splashed his sperm on a 'bodacious' innocent lady on the NYSC Camp. He wished the earth could open and swallow him up as the lady kept shouting at him and attracting a crowd. But no, the earth refused to open for him because instead of focusing on the Quarter Guard, he had been doing other stuff with someone's butt.

Masturbation causes you a lot of fatigue. It makes you feel tired all the time. Now, no one wants to feel this way always.

It gives you lower back pain. If you keep doing this to yourself, how will you take care of your wife or girl friend?...In bed, I mean.

It thins your hair  and eventually leads to hair loss. This is usually slow and gradual but it does happen. I think this is really a good reason you should fight to stop masturbation. This is especially for the girls. You do not want to start looking like a vulture after some time.

It causes soft / weak erections. This is for the men. If you have lost a very hot chick before because your D cannot stand or even 'do', you want to consider ditching masturbation. Besides, you do not want to be lonely all your life.

Masturbation also causes premature ejaculation. It is not good for anyone. Infact, it is a big turn-off for so many women. If you have this problem, it may have been as a result of you doing your one-eyed snake yourself. My advice here is, seek help and please, stop!, Get a wife, maybe!

It causes fuzzy vision. In fact, it may lead to sight loss. Please, try to help yourself.

Masturbation also causes groin / testicular pain. Guys, you know better.

It could make you a shame and a social outcast. It makes you lonely and on your own. Break the barrier and try to have a normal life. LOL.. Back in school, a girl was in a classroom helping herself in the night. Some two guys who happened to be my friends had walked in on her. They  knew what she was doing the moment they saw her and guess what they said, 'Do you need our help, sister?' Hahahahah. They kept reminding her whenever they saw her around the campus, though indirectly. Shameful!!

I hope these are dangers enough to make you want to stop masturbating. I know it is not easy, but you've got to try. Show love to yourself but do not make love to yourself. #takesabowandleavesthepodium#

FACTS ABOUT MASTURBATION

My last post click, some comments and personal messages I received from readers led me to make more research on Masturbation.

I came across so many write ups on it but I could not resist this one from about.com titled 'Facts About Masturbation'. They are people's ideas about the act and I want to know if you subscribe to the these facts?

Please, check them out....

Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful - it will not make you go blind, drive you insane, turn you into a pervert, stunt your growth, give you an STD, make you sterile or get you pregnant.

Both guys and girls masturbate, it is a normal and healthy part of sexual development.

Masturbation is a very personal thing and should not be done in public places or around people who are not willing partners (think safer sex activity).

You are normal if you masturbate, normal if you wonder about it but don't do it, and normal if you never give it a second thought and don't do it - it is one of the few things in life that is "normal if you do and normal if you don't".

Masturbation may make sexual intercourse more enjoyable because you will already know what it takes to "please you".

Masturbation alleviates stress and releases endorphens (the pleasure hormones) in to your system making you more relaxed.

Masturbation as exploration of the body is common in children between the ages of 3 and 6, in teens masturbation becomes more sophisticated and sexually motivated.

Surveys have shown that 80% of males and 59% of females have masturbated by age 18.

Many experts believe that masturbation is more prevalent in the teen years due to a strong fluctuation of hormones; masturbation alleviates the strain of this build up and is a necessary part of development.

The only real problems that come with masturbation are psychological and are the result of unhealthy or weary attitudes toward doing it (if you do it but are ashamed) or abnormal practices (for example, public masturbation).

LOL.. Surprised?

What is your take on these points?

A MUST READ -AGGRESSIVE MASTURBATION

Sometime last week I had a think back on some of the events that took place in my life on the Campus of OAU and one experience came vividly in my never forgetting mind. LOL

People think it is funny because when I shared it with my friends, they laughed so hard but for me, it is not. Hmmmm

It happened in the year 2006, I can’t really remember the month now, but it was a beautiful late morning. School was still in session. We had just finished a lecture on Sociology when I decided I was going to use the ladies'.

My girlfriend came along but decided to wait for me while I made my self comfortable inside. I won’t go into details but truth is, I was really being happy in there when suddenly, I caught that feeling you get when someone is looking at you. I ignored it because for all you care, it was just me in the loo. #duh!

But as that perceived presence lingered, I got uncomfortable and started hurrying up. Just as I was shaking off the last droplets, the feeling became stronger. That was when I looked up. Wew!!

What I saw amazed me! A gecko-like guy was hanging on the demarcating wall between the toilet I was in and the other one, watching me with eyes wide open in a suspicious manner.

At first, I was confused and dumbfounded. But in seconds I found myself screaming and running out of the convenience. My surprised friend ran to meet me halfway with so many questions…

In the midst of all this, all I could mutter to her was, ‘Babes, there’s a guy in there’.

We did not leave the place immediately because we wanted to see the guy and probably find out what he was doing staring at me 'peeing'. Initially, we thought he was not going to come out but thank goodness, he did. With his own sperm all over his pants and looking like a lost puppy. OMG! We knew what he was doing at this point…he was spanking the monkey, you know, the one-eyed snake!?, On my b**t…..ish!! #continuingwiththecryingof2006#

On seeing this, all we could say was, ‘shame on you!’ ‘Fine boy, no girlfriend!’.  ‘Ode buruku’, added my friend.

The sicko, of course, did not wait to hear the last insult as he disappeared into thin air. 

Ok, do not get me wrong, an average person gets sexually stimulated and they just want to help themselves. My question is, why should it be in the female toilet and with innocent women's butts? Oh! Shoot!!

Anyway, what would you do if this happened to you? 

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY - PLEASE, DO NOT DO THESE TODAY!

Today is that 'Day of Love' everyone has been waiting for. Personally I believe love should happen everyday. This is not to say that Feb 14 is not cool. Infact, it is Supercool and I totally subscribe to it.  You can even send me your gifts #winks# LOL...

Anyway, I just want to wish you all a fab one and to say enjoy the day in all the ways you can but please, do not do these things....like seriously, DO NOT DO THESE....

Don't Talk About An Ex
If you do not want to spoil your Valentine's Day evening, please, do not mention your 'ex' for any reason. Trust me, you don't want your partner to feel you are thinking about another man or woman. Focus!

Don't Overspend

You are not competing with anyone. Keep within your budget and have the nicest evening you can afford. You do not want to look at the pictures taken tonight and realize you have been frowning because your pocket is saying 'Red Alert'. I no dey ooo.

Don't Buy Kitchen Appliances 

Please, try sticking to romantic packages for your partner.Today is not the day you want to buy a washing machine or a blender. NOT ROMANTIC! (#inroborts'voice#). Whatever gift you choose should be nice and out of the ordinary.

Don't Do The Same Thing You Did Last Year

I know you want to say, 'but it worked magic'?  Good thing, you thought of a magical thing last year. Infact, I will say, 'bravo'!. However, try another one this time around. Trust me, magic never finishes. LOL

Don't Put Your Partner Last

Some of us are going to be the ones organizing our friends' gifts to their girlfriends and boyfriends. This is called 'Busy Body'. Please, make your partner happy first before any other person.

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO YOU ALL!!

THANK YOU!..I AM TWO MONTHS OLD TODAY - HD

Hello HD Forum Members,

I really do not know where to start with today's post. So I am just going to say two things; THANK YOU and THANK YOU. You are simply the best!

Ok, maybe you do not know why I am taking this 'Thank You' post serious. Let me break it down.

Hazon's Diaries is just two months old today, the 12th of February, but we have recorded over 2,000 pageviews, over a 100 comments, uncountable shares etc. It's been you, yes, you. You made it happen. I think this is a lot.

Your creative criticisms, your pieces of advice, your support, your love, your posts, your comments, private messages to me have contributed so immensely to this achievement. Please, keep them coming because without them, HD won't be.

Once again, I say
     Thank you
               Dalu
                  ese
           Nagode
          Obrigado
          Gracias
          Merci
          Tack
          dank
          Grazie
         koszonom
         Natick

I want to use this medium to tell you that a journey of a thousand miles indeed, starts with a step. So do not ever ignore the days of little beginnings because God can use anything in your hands. #TAKESABOW