CUTE & ORIGINAL THING TO DO FOR YOUR MAN/WOMAN THIS VAL

How time flies! It is already Valentine's week.

Well, I was thinking of what to post and this question came to mind, ‘What would be a cute and original thing to do for your man/woman for Valentine's day?’

Yes, I sampled people's opinions, you won't believe some fellows' concepts... Hahahahahahaaha

Please, check out some of their responses. 

‘Propose to her with a ring inside ice-cream.’. Hmmm.. Romantic!?

'Throw an engagement party'. Ooooooookay!

'Propose to her inside fire'… Lips sealed on this, I hope this couple lives to see their marriage.

‘Propose to her with a ring inside eba, amala or fufu’… ROTFL. According to him, it should be purely African. Hahahahaha

‘Take her to my village for some experience with village mosquitoes.’ He said that will teach her long suffering in the course of their eventual marriage. Hahahahaha

A lady said she will package garden eggs with groundnut paste in a beautiful bag with a bow. According to her, it is the most original thing to think of. Well, I just hope the man does not break up with this one after receiving the gift tho.

'I will end it all, I mean, I will break up with her because I am tired of buying Brazilian, Mongolian, Indian, Armenian, Egyptian, Namibian and all the 'ian' hairs'. Wow! this bobo is mean!

'I will just be available for my boyfriend'. Babe, this is vague but ermm, I will take it. LOL

Dear Readers, what do you think about these responses and how would you answer this question?

My own response would be umm... I will tell you later. #winks

SHE CHEATED ON HIM!!

Ooook! The post about Agnes and Dan titled "HER HUSBAND HAS STARVED HER FOR FOUR YEARS, SHOULD SHE DIVORCE HIM?" has got some folks arguing. If you did not read it, please, check here.

So some HD Readers argued that it is not possible for a man who married his wife to suddenly stop wanting to have s*x with her. According to them, Agnes has cheated on him or even done a worse thing to him and that is the reason he is keeping away. They further said that Aggy should even count herself lucky that she has a hubby that is considerate because some other men would have thrown her ass out of their home by now. Wow! Hmm

Well, in this case, this Reader may be right oo.

However, I have seen a situation where the man did not catch his wife cheating or anything like that and yet he started hating her and distancing himself until the marriage ended. And I just kept asking, "how did they get to that point?"

Anyway, Dear Readers, what do you think about these fellows' point?
Do you think Aggy actually cheated on him?

HER HUSBAND HAS STARVED HER FOR FOUR YEARS, SHOULD SHE DIVORCE HIM?

For a while now I have been thinking about a story someone shared with me some weeks back. She was actually trying to get my opinion on the situation of a young couple who may be losing their marriage to God-knows-what. I actually did not know what advise to give her, so I thought I should share with you, my most intelligent readers. #bigsigh#

According to her, Agnes and Dan got married in an elaborate wedding setting. The wedding was the talk of town as it was featured in major magazines and blogs. It was like a fairy-tale kind of wedding. For Aggy, as she was fondly called by friends and family, it was a dream come true.

To make their joy even more complete, their bouncing baby boy came a year later. Everyone around them was overwhelmed with joy.

This is the fourth year after their first baby was born. Everyone who is aware she does not want to have just a child,  has been expecting their second child but it does not seem to be coming. Family members and friends are concerned and asking questions. They have even advised her to slow down on her job as stress may be the cause of her inability to conceive again.

However, in her bit to keep her affairs away from the prying eyes of family and friends, she has always just smiled when these pieces of advise came flowing and she has just said, 'Hey guys, my husband and I are trying to space our kids, so no worries.'

But to everyone's shock, Agnes's last phrase, that is, 'so no worries' was met with tears. In confusion, everyone around chorused, 'Aggy, what is the problem?'. She wept and sobbed harder and then said in between sobs, 'my husband has not gone intimate with me for the past four years, that is the reason I have not got pregnant again.' 'The sad thing is, I do not know what I did wrong, so I do not know what to apologise for', she added.

Everyone, especially her mum, froze and for a second, wished they hadn't asked.

Dear Readers, what do you think went wrong with Agnes and Dan?

While some people are thinking she should leave the guy, others are thinking she should stay. But then again this question comes up, 'why would you stay with someone who practically sees you as a stranger?'

SEX GIVES MORE HAPPINESS THAN MONEY, AGREE?

I had always thought that money makers and owners were the happiest people until I stumbled on this report which says: 

'Good news for folks whose bedrooms have more activity than their bank accounts: Research shows that sex is better for your happiness than money. Overall, the happiest folks are those getting the most sex: married people, who report 30% more between-the-sheet action than single folks.'

Well, folks, based on this report, if you have been trying to pursue happiness by fattening your accounts, you might need to redirect your energies. Mind you, I did not say you should engage in any bad act. LOL

I trust Nigerians... ROTFL. Everyone I have spoken to on this said it is impossible for s*x to make them happiest. Someone even said, ' What is s*x? Me dey go make my doe jooor'. Hahahaha

Personally, I think it is relative. I mean, for a typical 'moneyless' Nigerian who has been having a lot of s*x and as a result, has ten kids he cannot feed, that finding may be a NO NO. #Justsaying

But seriously, do you really think s*x gives more happiness than money?

FINALLY MAKE HER FALL FOR YOU!!

On the 6th of January 2014, I published a post on  'YOU WANT HER TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU? SEE HOW' and I promised to bring us more points on the topic. Remember? Ok, if you did not read it please, kindly do so here

I remember some ladies wanted the points to be: 1)  Give Her Money

                                                                          2) Give Her Money

                                                                          3) Take Her shopping

                                                                          4) Give Her Mooooooney   

Hahahahahahaha.... Are men in trouble?! 

Anyway, check out the continuation of that post....

Don't Be Judgmental. Don't judge any girl that you develop feelings for not even if she turns out to be different from who you thought she was. Everyone is unique with their own qualities just like you are. No one is perfect. If she does stuff that you can't even try to understand, then she's just not the girl for you. Capiche!! That doesn't make her a bad person and it’s not a time to show her the lion in you. Hahahah.

Do Not Expect Anything. Love thrives in pressure-free environments. Let go of your expectations. This will not only help you relax but will also make you more appealing to a girl than if you are uptight and worried. Like we know, the less you expect, the less disappointed you get. Teach yourself to expect nothing from the girl so that you do not get disappointed. If she does fall in love with you, you'll be pleasantly surprised. Always have at the back of your mind that there are plenty of fish in the sea. This is in a case where a particular girl doesn’t end up falling for you.

Respect Her Thoughts, Feelings and Emotions. This is not easy but you will have to try and see everything from her point of view. Show her you appreciate and admire her opinions. Better still, don’t stop at ‘seeing’ and ‘appreciating’ her opinions, try to adopt them. You will sure be the most loved in the world! Whew

Always Be Honest and Genuine with Yourself and with Her. Honesty has a way of building trust, so don’t joke with it because you do not want the trust to be broken; it never returns, trust me. Reveal your true heart and soul. Do not be afraid of baring it all. Also, be honest and open about your plans, wants and desires. The worst that will happen is she is not OK with it. But you would have, at least, established a starting point which can then be adjusted in order that you come to know each other more closely.

Listen and Communicate. Listen patiently and passively. This is very important because the understanding that you gain will help to communicate in a caring and helpful way. Also, recognize her wants and needs. Be truly open to her expressions and feelings, both the verbal and the non-verbal.

Accept her Individuality. Everyone has what makes them unique; try to understand hers. Celebrate this uniqueness and all you will ever have is a happy and satisfied woman. And trust me, happy people love happily. LOL

Help Her Achieve Her Dreams. Help her do the things that she wants to do for herself. This means you will have to let her spend time working on the things that she wants to work on, like school or a skill. Doing these things with her is a plus. And in case you did not know this, the moment a girl sees that you are someone who supports her in the things she wants for her life, she will know that you are exactly what she needs.

Show Dedication and Commitment. This means you have to be there for her always both as a friend and a confidant. Be quick to forgive her weaknesses and work to bring the best in her. Similarly, be open to her making you into the best person you can be. Remember, committed love is a partnership, where you both bring out the best in each other. This will get her to fall so hard for you.

I wish you luck guys..
keep making them fall in love!

I hope these tips help. Feel free to send more.

WOW! CHECK OUT MEN'S JUSTIFICATIONS FOR LEAVING THEIR WIVES FOR DOMESTIC WORKERS

The points below are inspired by the last post about the married man and his maid interestingly. Remember? If you did not read it, please check here

A reader who has seen this happen a lot decided to send me likely reasons men tend to cheat on their wives with their domestic workers i.e maid, cleaners, cooks, nannies etc

Please, check them out....

Lack of Attention

For crying out loud, this woman was fixed on a common soap opera while things were spoiling under her nose. Who knows? It may have been the reason the affair started in the first place. I advise women to pay good attention to the needs of their husbands because this is very important really.  These things happen a lot and the truth is, the reasons are usually almost the same. In a nutshell, we are like babies at heart when it comes to attention but unfortunately people don't really know how much we crave it. Give us attention wives! #Ok

Women Get Relaxed after Marriage

This is more common among African women. They lose their sexiness after marriage and after childbirth by tying wrappers, wearing annoying clothes, wearing unkempt hair, putting on so much weight. Some even go as far as not allowing their husbands get intimate with them. I am not saying there are no ‘dog-men’, I am just saying, do your bit! #Hmm

Creativity in Bed

Some women do not know more than the missionary style which can be boring. I am a man, and I will tell you, men easily get bored. So if you are married and you cannot do other styles during s*x, I am sorry you might have to work on yourself first and then, maybe, put away every woman who lives in your house that is not related to your husband. Because, woe betides you if evil happens and your hubby tests one of those girls who know it better than you. I mean, even if your husband cheats on you, it should not be with your domestic workers because, truth be told, the pain lasts longer!

Let me rest my case here HD. Thanks.

Wow! I am amazed. Seems there are justifications for every wrong doing these days. #LOL. Hey, this is not to say that this HD Reader has nailed it! Because I think there is truth in his points. 

But dear friends, readers etc, what do you think about this fellow's points?

CAUGHT IN THE ACT!! WHAT WOULD YOU DO??

This is a true life story...

A man and his wife were watching a soap opera on a very beautiful evening. The wife who was addicted to the show got carried away and was really concentrating.

About fifteen minutes later, the man asked to be excused and left for the room.

Show ended and the man was still not back. Just then, it dawned on the woman that her hubby had been gone for over forty minutes. She called out to him several times but there was no response. She got agitated and went in search of her husband. First, she went outside and then, she went inside wondering if rapture had taken place in her house.

For a moment, she thought, ‘has God left me behind?’

Out of confusion however, she dashed into their room. There was no one there. She rushed out and ran into their guest room. There her husband was with his pants down while their maid worked the best BJ ever on him.

What do you advise this woman?

CHECK OUT THE REASONS MEN DUMP YOUNGER LADIES FOR OLDER WOMEN

I have come to see that in contemporary times, men are more attracted to older women (Cougars as they are called). It is one thing I have been trying to understand in a very long time. I mean, there was a time men would not even go for ladies their age not to talk of older ones. What changed?  Men I have spoken to on this issue even admitted that they actually prefer older ladies.Hmm

Being a very curious person, I decided I was going to find the reasons young men would rather go for women older than them, (and even in some cases, women twice their age).

Some men/boys I spoke to gave me these justifications:

Independence.

Older women are independent. They have most times tested relationships and so they are not particularly interested in having their men by their sides every minute of the day like puppies. This, according to my interviewees makes such women less likely to be clingy and demanding.

Clear And Straight To The Point.

They tell what they want without mincing words while younger women in their 20s are more likely to waste your time playing hard to get. Younger women also tend to play games which older ladies don’t have time for. Older women’s forthrightness is refreshing; it’s a turn-on. #wow

Deep and Intelligent Conversations.

Younger women lack this! This is because they have little or no experience as compared to the older ladies who have lived longer, seen things, done things, seen places, have more interesting stories and more experience. According to them, conversations are very important in relationships and it will keep a relationship interesting long after the spark of the initial attraction has faded and so they cannot risk it with younger ladies.

Bed Skills.

Older women, because of their experiences over the years display better skills in bed than the younger ones who have probably not been involved before. Trying to teach someone the skills from start can be boring! (Aww!! whatever happened to men wanting virgins?!!)

Relationship Drama.

The younger women are usually drama queens with entanglements of cliques here and there; this is hardly seen around older ladies. For all you care they are too independent and mature that they do not remember to check with every Tom, Dick and Harry before they make plans about their relationship. Besides, older women, over the years, have streamlined their social networks and so, they usually have a few friends, thus, less drama.

Money

Older women have more money. It is not the most important thing in relationships but definitely no one wants to carry all his girlfriend’s responsibilities on his head. As a matter of fact, it’s just a comfort for guys to know they aren’t going to have to pay for every single expense their girls make in the course of the relationship. #wow

What do you think about their points?

For me, I think there is a lot of truth in these justifications. 

But my question is, 'why do the older women like the younger men (Cubs)?'

IS IT OK FOR ME TO MARRY MY BROTHER-IN-LAW'S NEPHEW??

Hello Friends!

Welcome back from the Holiday. I hope you had a fab one.

I know it seems like almost everything I post is about relationships but come to think of it, can we ever do anything in this life without a form of relationship? I think the answer is ..NO, Yeah, it is ‘NO’.. LOL.

Heheh..By now you probably know what I am getting at already…Hmmm, preparing your minds for a permission to post something about R-E-L-A-T-I-O-N-S-H-I-P-S again. #winks#.. Thanks for granting my permission!!

So, there is an HD Reader in a situation. She is really not knowing which way to go about this right now and she thinks well-meaning friends like you might help out with some pieces of advice.

Her sister’s husband’s nephew is in love with her and wants to marry her. Considering the fact that most relationships she has started are not working out, she is thinking, should she damn whatever the Society feels about such arrangements and go with her in-law’s proposal or should she tell the guy off?

I personally think it is not wrong, after all, there are parts of the world where cousins marry themselves. But what do I know?

Dear Readers, what do you advise her to do in this situation?

MUST READ: BAD BREATH AND ITS HEALTH INDICATIONS

Every one, at every point in time has a level of bad breath (Halitosis). Yeah, I know we don't want to admit that but it is true. It might be early hours of the morning or after a particular 'smelly' meal. This smell goes away after brushing, applying a mouth wash, etc.

However, there are some that  are chronic and do not ever go away no matter the amount of brushing or mouthwash. I mean, you open your mouth to speak and a whole crowd is dispersed.

Hey! this could be really embarrassing but not as bad as the many health conditions that it (bad breath/halitosis) might indicate. 

Check out some of the medical conditions ...(I read about them and thought I should share with you.)

Respiratory Tract Infections

You may catch a nasty flu bug, which develops into bronchitis or sinusitis if left untreated. These respiratory tract infections all end up causing bad breath if the sinus, lung, and throat tissues become inflamed and blocked, allowing odorous bacteria and mucus to accumulate.

Diabetes

Indeed, there’s a link between unstable blood sugar levels and chronic bad breath. Doctors often associate a notable fruity-acidic odor on the breath to a condition called, ketoacidosis, which is common in diabetics. When insulin levels are inadequate, the body will often excrete “offensive” acidic ketones. If untreated, ketoacidosis can lead to diabetic coma and death.

Obesity

Studies draw a direct association between bad breath and being overweight due to diets high in protein and dairy, which causes an overgrowth of foul-smelling bacteria due to excessive amino acids.

Alcoholism

We all know that we risk dehydration if we consume too much alcohol. That’s why the day after a night of imbibing; a nasty headache is likely to be your only souvenir.  This is because alcohol acts as a diuretic, depriving your body of water and prompting an unattractive case of dry mouth.

Acid Reflux

Digestive issues and other stomach conditions commonly cause halitosis. In fact, a plethora of digestive woes—including acid reflux and gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) obstruct efficiently digestion, causing it to remain and begin it’s decay in your gut, leaving you with regurgitation, acid indigestion, and smelly breath.

Stomach Ulcers

Another painful digestive woe that occurs on the inside and causes bad breath on the outside is stomach ulcers. Medical researchers claim that the very same bacteria linked to the growth of stomach ulcers, H. pylori bacteria, also causes chronic halitosis.

Kidney Disease

Do you have fishy breath? Did you eat a tuna sandwich recently? If you didn’t, you may be experiencing kidney issues. Because the kidneys filter toxic chemicals from our bodies via urine, once damaged,  they will become inefficient in toxin removal and a fishy, ammonia-scent may be noted in exhalation, indicating kidney failure or renal disease.

Lung Cancer

Bad breath can actually help pathologists diagnose lung cancer. This much cheaper alternative is being used more and more rather than costly and invasive biopsies and ultrasound scans to diagnose patients for lung cancer. Doctors actually scan a patient’s mouth using a pre-programmed “electronic nose,” which can identify volatile organic compounds (VOCs) in respired breath.

Sleep Apnea

We’re all guilty of some pretty evil morning breath. However, if you sleep with your mouth open, saliva production is obstructed during sleep, producing bacteria and severe halitosis. That’s why those prone to chronic snoring, or sleep apnea, will often breathe through the mouth and develop offensive sleeping breath in during deep slumber.

Cardiovascular Disease

Would you believe that a simple breath analysis could detect a heart condition? It turns out breath samples can diagnose several cardiovascular conditions, including a pending heart failure.

Please, let us take care of our health; it is very important. Remember, Health is Wealth.