ONCE UPON A RAPIST

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I had just finished one of my pre-Jamb classes, precisely the one before break. I was excited because we had finally ended the long and boring Government class of how the Military seized power and how the Civilians 'unseized' it.

Well, there was nothing much to do for the 30 minutes of break except that I had to go get some snacks and a drink. I was just trying to get some money out of my cheap wallet when I had the urge to look out the window.

I did look out and lo and behold, there was my ‘ex-toaster’ ‘ex-wooer’ looking up at me. I ran back, maybe out of shock or shyness. I don’t know, maybe one or both of the reasons. After some seconds I looked out again and jeez, he was still there. ‘What is he doing here?’ I thought.

Now, Jeffrey or Jeff as he was popularly called was neither a student of the school nor a pre-Jambite. The reason his presence was a bit like an intrusion.

Back to my story.

While I was still wondering why he was around, he waved. Initially I wasn’t sure that was for me so I looked sideways but since no one was standing there except me, I reluctantly waved back at him, waiting for the next action, I guess. Shortly after, he beckoned to me to come downstairs. At first I thought, ‘why should I go down to meet him?’. But on a second thought, I decided to go, after all, I was going to go buy stuff anyway.

Ok, I liked Jeff actually #winks# but I thought he was too old for me because while I was fifteen going on sixteen, he was twenty-nine or thirty. This was the main reason I said ‘NO, to him. Plus the fact that my folks would not hear of it, of course!

By the way, seconds after, I was downstairs. But my friend was nowhere to be found. I got confused and started wondering if I was hallucinating. So I thought, ‘what a heck, let me grab my snacks then’. As I was about crossing to the other side, I looked to my right and there was Jeff, again! He was already a few yards off. He looked, smiled and beckoned to me to keep coming.

Did I follow him? Oh yes, I did. As a matter of fact, I kept following until he entered through a gate not far from the school building. A minute later, we were both in a small but beautiful room apartment with his friend.

Ok, I never thought of any danger until his friend said he was leaving to return soon. Immediately, it was as if my eyes got cleared of whatever was covering them and I remembered I did not tell my cousin where I was going….haba!!

To be contuned…

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AKINSOLA

   

Yaaaayyy!! Another HD lover, reader etc is plus one today! Happy Birthday Akinsola. Last week, it was the beautiful Ogechi, read here if you missed it.

His full name is Akinsola Akinwale. He is an excellent Sofware Developer working with VAS Consulting. He is a blogger, Motivational Speaker and Writer. Talk to him if you ever want or need to be motivated. hehehe. He is actually good at a lot of things. In fact, he is an ocean of knowledge. 

Check his blog out here

He wishes to be better next year, doing greater things and reaching greater heights. Awww

God will grant your wishes and may He grant you more years in health, wealth and prosperity.

Happy! Happy!! Happy!!! Birthday

Come on People, let's show a brother some love. 

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MEN'S HABBITS THAT KEEP WOMEN AWAY

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A short lived relationship one of my girlfriends had sometime in the past inspired this writing. Somehow she met this really handsome dude and she was really excited to know him better. So they start hanging out every once in a while. But then she noticed the guy was always talking about himself so much that as at their fourth date, the guy only knew her name and where she lived. Goodness!

I felt kind of bad for her because I knew she really liked this guy but with time the attraction vanished, though gradually. 

Guys, there are so many habits like that that can make women walk away from your life without informing you. Sometimes, we can't easily control them but hey, we can deal with them.

Check some of these habits out...

Boasting

Guys, making a woman feel you are a good catch is not bad but when it starts looking like you are bragging, ladies get pissed or run off. Oh you have an amazing job, great! You have got so much money in your account, awesomely great!You wear latest designers, oops! You have the latest cars, you live in a 50-room apartment, seriously? Bobos, please, you don't need all that 'bigging' up..Wait a minute, whoever told you that all this bragging will make women overlook the fact that you’re so boring? Oh yes, bragging makes you boring buddy. So stop it! Being egotistical won’t make the ladies stick around. Try employing a tiny bit of modesty and try asking questions about them rather than blabbing about yourself all the time.

Scratching Your Private Parts

Guys, please, do not get caught doing this. It’s definitely a turn-off for women when men shamelessly scratch ‘down there’ without a care in the world. Eww... For crying out loud, it is really dirty. At least get your scratching fixed in the bathroom when you are not in full view of everyone else. Clean up and come out looking all dope.

Ungentlemanliness

Guys, ladies do not really expect this perfect, prim and proper guy but not being gentlemanly at all is a huge turn-off. Now you can take a lady on a few dates and treat her like a queen but the day you leave her to find a cab by herself after a date is the day she stops being attracted to you. Women like to be looked after and feel safe when they are with you. Don't make her walk home alone because you want to watch a match. Wrong!! Don't make her open the car door when you can just be a gentleman and do it. Women are fragile, treat them tenderly as gentlemen would. There are so many other things that gentle men do, please, go learn them. Hmm

Lack of Sense of Humour
Every man must possess a good sense of humour to keep women attracted to him. It’s a powerful tool in a conversation, particularly when overcoming awkward moments. So dear guys, not having one makes you seem overly serious and boring. Women want to laugh at something hilarious you have done or said until they can barely breathe. Straight faces keep them away but the guy who is having a laugh with his friends or keeping a cheerful outlook, on the other hand, always looks like a fun person to be around and so women flock around them. Make our ribs hurt, crack us up and we will always be around.

No Ambition

Most women are attracted to men who have a focus in life, and they find it annoying if you have no ambition to achieve anything. It makes it hard for women to respect you if you can’t speak to them about your goals, ideas, and things you want to achieve. No woman wants to settle down with the guy who lazies around on the sofa watching day time television and eating his mother's foods and uploading them on BBM while his mates are working hard to achieve their dreams.  And please, do not be 'empty-brained'; read and build your knowledge so that you can talk with authority as a man. Aim for a quality life. Write down  things you want to achieve in life and start chasing them. No time!

Over-protectiveness

Yes, women  love to feel safe and cared for, but  there’s a fine line between that and being over-protected. Women see over-protectiveness as a sign of insecurity, and no woman likes that. If you are guilty of this habit, try to get rid of it. Women hate it even though they may not tell you. And oh, yes,  it makes you seriously unattractive.

I hope these make sense. Guys, you may not have all of these issues but whichever one you are not handling properly, do well to look into it. Don't lose people who care about you because of habits you are stronger than. It is not worth it!

Feel free to add other habits you feel men need to address. The comment box is all yours.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY OGECHI!!

Hey Friends, 

This beautiful lady is the first in line for Celebration. It is her birthday! Yay! 

Her name is Ogechi, she works as a Nutrition Manager at True Link Integrated. She is a reader of Hazon's Diaries. She wishes to celebrate more years. 

Wow! By God's grace you will celebrate more years in health and prosperity. 

Let's show her some love by dropping our birthday wishes for her in the comment box.

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Happy Birthday Dear!

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GUYS, WIFE HER IF SHE'S GOT THESE

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Some men are are straight to the point, they know exactly what they are looking for in their future wives and so when they meet that one woman made from their rib, they just know it. What's more? They head straight for alter and they live happily ever after.

On the other hand, some may need to look, look, search, search and search. Well, you are free to call them 'selective' but I will not blame such men, especially in this age when women just want to be tagged 'married' with the rest not being their business. It is a 'Forever' thing, so please, search well o my bothers.

But, hey if you have done all the searching and you are still confused, you could make your choice based on some of the female attributes listed below. In fact, if you find a woman with some or all of these characteristics, I will advise you take her to mama one time!

Check out the kinds of women you can take home to mama....

The Faithful One

Miss Faithful will not cheat on you neither will she be on the lookout for a "better guy" as women would say. When you are with this one she will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life. Yeah, she's  most likely going to stick around if times get tough. This woman is a rare gem. If you find her, tie yourself around until she is fully yours and totally wifed.

Miss Low Maintenance

This one is very rare. In fact, she is atypical of modern women. She is not interested in your pocket or what money you have — she just likes you for yourself and not for what she can take from you. In most cases, she is a true feminist who will gladly pay her share of the dating expenses. If you can find  The Low Maintenance type, hang on to her for dear life until you wife her. Tip: Real men are always in search of this kind, so please, if you get this opportunity, don't mess it up.

The Ever Sweet Woman

She is always positive, content with her life, always upbeat and just fun to be around. She's a genuine person without a bitch bone in her body. She's always truly happy to see you and somehow you find yourself looking forward to spending time with her. These are not usually readily available in the dating market right away, they're pretty rare. But if you can find one, you've got a real treasure on your hands. Don't wait until someone else takes her! Wife her!

The Sexual Woman

You should be so lucky to encounter one of these! Miss Sexual loves men and loves sex — and makes no bones about it. She's not selling it, she is not freaked about it, she's not using it as a tool to manipulate men, she just naturally craves it and she waits to give it to the right person and at the right time. Please, don't confuse her with a nymphomaniac, who suffers from psychological problems. This one does not buy the female general idea of using what you have to get what you want from the highest bidder. Miss sexual should be searched out by every man because in marriage sex is important and with her you are rest assured that you will not be starved in marriage.

The Straightforward

She knows how to communicate. With this woman, there are no games. She is free enough to pick up the phone and ask you out. She keeps her every word, she does not say one thing and do just the opposite. Bad side is that she is blunt at times. But I can bet you'll know where you stand with her and you'll never have to spend hours trying to fix one lady who does not have a mind of her own or who takes ages to make up her mind.

Miss Independent

Go for this woman if you don't have a lot of time to invest in a relationship or you're the type of guy who needs a lot of space. This one is too busy and so has a real life of her own and is happily going in her own positive direction. She wants a man in her life, but doesn't need a man in her life. And she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems or blame when things don't go her way. Men who are ready for marriage, should look for this kind. Warning: If you have a complex, don't even say hi to Miss Independent, Reason:  you may take her independent personality for pride.

The One Step At A Time Lady

This woman is not in a rush about getting married. She's happy just to be with you. So you don't get any, "Where is our relationship going?", or 'honey, my friend's boyfriend just gave her an engagement ring' or 'Sweets, there is a  ring store around the corner, I love their rings' etc. Don't get me wrong, this lady may want to get married at some point, but she's in no hurry. She thinks that if it happens, it will just happen naturally. If you get this type, try to stay with her if other sides to her are good. This one will not pressure you into doing anything, trust me. 

The Confident 

This woman accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good points, as well as her bad. And she feels the same about you, her man. Isn't that beautiful? I mean, she won't even bug you about changing something that people perceive as bad about you. She takes you just as you are. This woman is so secured that she doesn't need constant attention to cover up her sagging ego. She is got a high self-esteem, and confidence in herself and you. wow!!

The Right One For You

Most of the time, guys choose women who are good-looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. Don't get me wrong, beautiful women are good  but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of looks, age or social status or what any other guy thinks then you have definitely won at the mating game.
Some time ago, a friend told me about a girl he was dating; very beautiful, he used to show her off, according to him. All his friends used to talk about his girlfriend whenever they went out but he alone knew the girl was a tigress. She used to fight him with knives and other dangerous objects whenever she was angry. Just imagine that!

We can't finish the list but I think these cover a great deal of the attributes or the kinds of women you could make your future plans around. Yeah, it could be difficult knowing the real ones but if you use your head instead of your heart and sexual organ, you will get the real deal. Please, don't forget the number one factor, GOD. Always ask for His guidance. You can't miss it if God is involved.

Friends, feel free to add other kinds or attributes, the comment space is all yours.

Cheers

LADIES, DO NOT DATE THESE MEN

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Sometimes we are not able to control the people that come into our lives. But we do have control over the kind of people we allow stay in our lives. Ladies, if you have any of the under listed men in your life, you may have to let them go. No time! (except in cases where you know you can work things out, of course).

Check them out...

THE JOBLESS

This is the guy who has no job and no plans on ever getting one. What's worse is that he wants to get the best of everything and so he knows how to manipulate his way into your wallet to support the lavish lifestyle he desperately wants. He might seem like a super nice guy who is going through some tough times, but he's only concerned about what you can do for him. Don't let this guy charm his way into your heart or your wallet!

THE NEVER-READY

While seemingly a normal, possibly timid guy, things can go extremely wrong when he finds out your true feelings. Men like this aren't mature enough to handle relationships and commitments, so they avoid them at all costs. For example, he may show signs of sharing your infatuation, but when talk of commitment comes up, he acts as if you've never even met. If this man comes into your life, don’t beat yourself up over his sudden change of heart. He’s simply a scared little boy, not the man of your dreams. So run as fast as you can!

THE FLIRT

We’ve all met a flirt. Also known as the 'player'. He has dozens of women on his list and possesses a constant hunger to string more along to fulfill his insecure mindset. He is mostly very charming, rich and dope looking. When you see this man, don’t let him get to you. You can bet those charms and suave winks have been used many times before to his advantage. You’ll always be an option, but never a priority. You are going to be on his list probably, forever. Run!

MR ANGRY

This type of men can be extra caring, hot looking boyfriend. They can be very volatile too. You will never know what changes his mood. It just changes in very drastic manner and you are left wondering why on earth he is behaving the way he is doing or what you did wrong. But do not worry, it is not you; it is him.

Unless you can deal with his anger and sudden mood change, he is not the guy you are looking for. But, if you can work around things, you may do well with him and maybe you won't have to run.

THE DRAMATIC

This type freaks out if you show up five minutes late to a date. You can be sure he’ll fan every little disagreement into a full-blown argument. It’s not worth the stress babes. This type sure can’t handle sarcasm very well because most of the times, their serious attitudes tend to translate intended humor very literally.

THE CONTROLLER

This type of man has a need for control  over you, and everything else in his life. If he starts ordering you around or trying to manipulate you in any way, get out of this relationship. He’ll only continue to build power by wearing you down. In order for a relationship to happily function, both sides need to share authority. He isn’t the boss of you; you control your own life. One dangerous thing about this one is that he could easily hit you when he has the chance. So run!

THE JUDGE

This type points out every flaw in people. He doesn't not believe the saying 'No one is perfect'. His specialization is pointing out wrongs. all he sees is evil. He is incredibly shallow and doesn't have the capacity to dig deep and really get to know anyone out of the ordinary. You don’t want to date a mean, un-understanding man. So, find someone who can accept people for who they are and is secure with himself.

MUMMY'S BOY

I love a man who is close to his family, but if he can't make any decisions without his mother's opinion, it's a deal breaker. Please, don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about consulting his mother on life-altering decisions here. I am talking about a guy who seeks his mom's advice on clothes to wear, his job, car, even what he eats! Take a pass on this type of man. Truth is, he will not use the convenience without informing his mama.

THE MARRIED GUY

While some women run away from guys who are married, there are some who aren't aware of their relationship status or they find out after they've already fallen for them. Ladies, in either case, don't get caught up with the married guy. Open your eyes! If he's obviously unable to stay faithful to the woman he made a vow to be with, he is definitely not going to be different with you. Do not let him lead you to believe that he's trapped in a loveless marriage and that he's going to eventually leave his wife and children for you because it's a big fat lie. 

Relationships are supposed to help us be better people.

It is supposed to add a glow to our lives as a result of the happiness from within.

It supposed to make us not break us.

The list is endless.

So friends, be wise. think before you leap.

Guys, if you fall under any of these categories, no hard feelings. All I can say is, 'Upgrade Bro'.

CHECK OUT OTHER ALTERNATIVES TO 'I LOVE YOU'

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'I love you' is one line everyone who is genuinely in love wants to hear from their partners. It is one of the engines that propel the ship of relationship.

If you love someone you should profess it. And hey, if you ever feel 'I love you' has become boring, here is some good news for you, you could use some more interesting alternatives. Trust me, they give the same feeling. I mean, they work magic.

Check out the alternatives

You are my one and only.

You are the sweetest.

Ife mi.

You are the 'bestest' lover in the whole world.

You take my breath away.

I am lovingly yours forever.

Oh baby, i di too much.

With you, forever won't be too long.

You are the world's best wife/Husband!

When I see you, I think "Good job, God!"

You are the love of my life!

It's awesome to spend my life with you!

I dey go gaga lik Ogaga for you, Chei!

Loving you everyday, sweetheart!

I treasure you.

You were sent to me from Heaven.

I adore you.

Sweetheart, you stir my soul!

Oh baby, you be my tomato Jos

I'm head over heels for you.

I cherish you.

Life is incomplete without you.

We were made for each other!

You're my soul-mate and the love of my life.

You're one hot babe/guy!

I can't imagine life without you my heart.

You are my heartthrob

You dey make my heart go .....

I don love you finish.. Kai

Hahahaha

Ok..You may not need to use all the different alternatives given above but you sure need to spice up your relationship. You know what I am saying. Remember, variety is the spice of life.

Keep making it work, be creative, let it be playful sometimes....#winks

Please, feel free to add more because I know the list is endless.

SHE IS DONE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP IF THESE HAPPEN

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Sometime ago, a friend of mine whose relationship was already hitting the rocks complained of how his girlfriend was acting funny. According to him, she just started keeping her distance and he did not understand why. While I felt bad for him, I thought, why don't I feature this on HD?

Anyway, I decided to help my friend by writing on the point when you know it is no longer working. Men, if you sense she is done with the relationship, don't be confused like my friend, just check out for the following:


All Communication is Initiated by You

You can't miss this sign except you are in denial. Truth is girls like to talk and so they initiate most of the communicating. In most cases, nothing can get a girl to shut up if she feels like talking. I mean, even when she is mad at you and says she doesn't want to talk, she still talks. Now if the reverse becomes the case and you are doing more of the talking as a guy, she is probably done with you.

She's Not Jealous Anymore

Jealousy means a girl cares.  if she used to display this attribute a lot and then she suddenly stops, you know, she starts letting you hangout with whomever you want, without any sort of protest or comments, well you should start getting worried. She may have found someone else.

 She Flirts with Other Guys In Front of You

 Now this can mean one of two different things. The first possibility is that she's attempting to gain your attention by making you jealous. If this is the case, you're good to go, if you're cool with that. However, the second alternative is she's not trying to make you jealous, she is literally flirting with those guys with every bad intention. This could be her way of saying, 'you can have me'. So beware!

 She Signs Off  Chat Moments After You Start Talking to Her

 Don't kid yourself man, at this point you know she's avoiding you. It doesn't matter what she says. If she logs off every time you attempt to talk to her, regardless of how long she's been online, then she's avoiding you like a bad habit. When it gets to this point, she's tired and you should let her be.

 She Takes Other Men's Calls When You Are Together

A girl who is in love with you will not want to give you any reason to doubt her love or feel disrespected. Usually, women achieve this by not allowing other men call them especially when they are with their lovers. If strange guys never used to call her when you are together and then it just starts happening all of a sudden, she may have started planning on leaving you.

She Becomes Forgetful of Everything You Discuss

If she has lost interest, she will always not remember plans you make together. In this case, it is always advisable you both talk about the situation but if she does not change,  it may just mean that she is over you.

These may not all the ways that you can know if she is done with you but I think they could help. Remember, being caught unawares is very hurting. 

Feel free to add your points please.

THE QUALITIES WOMEN LOOK OUT FOR IN MEN

There are certain qualities in men that women absolutely dig.They are not about being tall, dark and handsome but you just have to have them to get women admiring you. In fact, some women would rather these points than the looks.

Check them out....

Being Well groomed

Believe ye me, tall and handsome is great but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you present yourself. Just like guys like women who are well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that they are perfectly groomed. To these women there is this belief that if you are careful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys, sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are an absolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from the opposite sex. 

Having a Sense of Style

When I talk about this, I don’t mean you should spend all your earnings on pricey clothes or have one million clothes in your closet. So, even if they are just few and not so expensive, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylish look and maintain it. Please, keep yourself updated on the latest trends, women love it. Don’t wear 1960 trends in 2014. Also, know that office type dressers bore the life out of women. Let your fashion taste be versatile.

Having a Sense of Humour

One of the most important traits that woman dig is a sense of humour. Women have more than enough problems to deal with and don't really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, I do understand you have your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humour, and clean humour at that. Know that constantly putting others down does not really spell fun for women. You should also be able to laugh at yourself and your mistakes, women love it.

Showing  Care

Women like to know that you love and care for them. Acts like holding their hand while walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks and making sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care for them. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you are with. However, careful not to be crass while displaying your affections.

Calmness

Woman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn't help if you too get stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in your looks as it does in your attitude - women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who is able to calm them down and reassure them that all is well.

Ability to Protect

Women love to be protected. So show in more ways than one to prove that you will be her saviour should your damsel land in distress! Women are always in awe of men who can step up in times of conflicts. Be sure you grab every opportunity that situation throws at you. Some men, when there is distress, they fly away first and then later they are like, 'Baby, I was looking everywhere for you'. Nope!. You should be ready to save her first. You know, like in Titanic!. LOL. Don't die though.

Your Smell 

You should wear good fragrances if you must attract the right women. Choose a deodorant that suits you.  Know what smells best on you because what smells heavenly on your friend might stink on your skin!  Everything depends on your body odour. When you spray perfume on your body, what you smell like is a combination of the spray and your body odour. Please, don't put your lady through the stress of having to tell you, 'Dear, I don't know, errm, what what, you know, what kind of perfume do you use?'.  Please, the mouth should be taken care of here too. You can't easily impress any woman with bad breath. I am sorry but that is just it.

Perfect Body 

You may not be so handsome or very tall but you can build your body to the point of having six or eight pack abs. Girls love men with well-toned bodies. I can tell you that big tummies and soft bodies are big turn-offs for most ladies. So get into the habit of regular workout so you can make heads turn!

Live, be happy, get the best, take care of yourself....

I know life is not all about the body but you gonna need to take care of it so as to attract wonderful people who will eventually stay, complement your life and make it worth living.